What Does Unconditional Love Means?

Many mothers wonder what unconditional love for a child really is, let's start with what it is NOT and start there.

Somewhere over the rainbow, someone spreads a useless rumor that makes moms all over the world believe...

That warm, fuzzy, super soft feeling every day (all day for your kids) is unconditional love.

Mothers everywhere started and still feel guilty when they have negative feelings towards their children.

To cope with this, they start pampering her... or trying to make her happy at all costs. They let go of guilt (or the idea that they are somehow inadequate) to control their parenting decisions.

What is unconditional love?

Love is more than making your children happy...

I love my children because they are my children. Nothing you do will change that. I will love him no matter what. This does NOT mean that I always let them do what they want. It would be to your detriment.

In fact, if he made them too happy at all costs... It would ruin the love he was trying to show them!

Together, let's dispel some common myths about unconditional love.

1) Unconditional love is not dictated by feelings

Feelings can be useless, wrong and unproductive... That's why feelings cannot be the determining factor of our unconditional love.

When you are exhausted, you may feel resentful towards your children. Honestly, you don't work at your best when you're exhausted. It's normal to feel resentful or unloved in these circumstances...

Does this feeling tell you that you are not capable of loving unconditionally and therefore you are a bad mother?

No. Absolutely not...

If we allow our senses to control our actions and decisions, we will find ourselves in a world of pain as our emotions shift like shifting shadows. Feelings don't change the truth. Love is not just a feeling.

2) Unconditional love doesn't always mean warm and fuzzy

There will be times when your decisions, as well as those of your children, will upset everyone.

They are challenged to eat vegetables. Children make grumpy faces and pretend the world is ending when they have to go to bed "earlier than they want."

As children gradually learn to exercise their independence, they will constantly fight and try to trick us.

Happy to be angry...

Just because we're angry doesn't mean we don't love them...

Being angry means that we are human and our emotions are inflamed in response to our surroundings. This is because they can make us angry.

Especially if you have a lot of naughty kids. You can often experience these negative emotions.

Remember that if you don't take care of your children and feel happy every moment of the day, that doesn't mean you don't love them unconditionally.

Oh wait, yeah, that still means something. That means you're human!

3) Unconditional love is long term... not petty

There are some decisions we make as parents that make our children miserable for a while.

A month's house arrest for a serious violation of the house rules will probably set you back for a while. But just like long-term financial planning, investing, and pursuing an education, sometimes you need to work hard, make tough decisions, and know your child will benefit from them.

Making this difficult decision is an act of unconditional love when you think about the good of your family and children!

When you make a tough decision and feel like a bad parent, a bad cop who ruined your child's life (temporarily), just think...

4) Unconditional love protects

Parenthood is very similar to marriage in this regard...

Today, people think that breaking up with someone is reason enough to move on. What if we as parents did that? What if God did this to us?

Unconditional love says you pissed me off and broke up our family and I will do something about it. Introduce the rules, help find a cure, help, intervention, etc.

Children are the same...

Discipline and limits have a big impact on children over time. That does not mean that they value them in the minds of their children.

Love is so much deeper than just making someone happy.

He cares about a person's best interests and strives to help them achieve long-term success.